Money certainly didn’t grow on any trees in my childhood. I had very little money and I didn’t have any trees at all. I lived in a housing project that was all stucco and sidewalks. Everyone I knew was poor. I thought my high school friends who lived in actual houses were rich. It was not an auspicious beginning for a prosperity teacher.
My grandmother used to tell me that my face was my fortune and she meant that I was pretty enough to “marry up”. My mother, said, “It’s just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man.” That wasn’t statistically true but I tried. At age 18, I dropped out of college to marry the richest boy in my poor town.
That didn’t work out well for me financially but eventually, I my world grew wider. As time went on, I met people with inherited wealth and I noticed that they took their riches for granted. Instead of being obsessed by lack and limitation, they simply expected the money to be there. Although I had achieved some financial success, I was usually broke because I carried my poor girl mentality with me. Expecting money to be there was an amazing and exotic mindset to me.
Over the years, I also met people who created a lot of money through their work. The ones who were able to hold on to it seemed to be both cautious and grateful for what they had. Although I’d mastered the art of creating wealth through money, I hadn’t mastered the art of caution or gratitude. Like many people, I was beset by old limiting ideas that made me fearful and erratic. Ambition was a good beginning but it wasn’t enough to create a happy ending.
Since I became a New Thought minister, I have found that many people come into our teaching because they are experiencing very similar prosperity problems. That’s fine because there is nothing as clear as how Change your thinking and change your life works.
Prosperity principles may sound preposterous but there is no area of living that is as easy to prove. Releasing old ideas about money and expanding your vision to accept more wealth brings definite results you can count them.
We have to accept some new, more expansive, ideas about the nature of the Universe before we can begin to solve the puzzle or why hard work and/or thrift doesn’t automatically bring big bucks. If we are stuck in a mentality that keeps telling us that money is scarce or that, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, the Universe will find a way to make money scarce.
Once we accept that the only Source of all Good is God, we can begin to assume the mental attitude of expectation that those fascinating people who inherited their wealth had. Affirmations help to turn our heads around so why not start your day with an affirmation like this one, “I expect great things today and that includes more money”. Expectation is important.
Gratitude is also really important. Consistently appreciating what you have rather than bemoaning what you are lacking will really help build your emotional and financial health. Learn to see the glad half-full rather than half-empty and you are on you way. Here’s another affirmation you can use. “I am grateful for all the abundance in my life.”
Spiritual laws are always working and they will create more of whatever you are thinking about. That means that you need to expect the best and feel gratitude as much as you possibly can. Worry really won’t help. Feeling grateful really will help. No matter what your bank account is, changing your thinking so that you point the Law of Attraction in the direction you want to go can increase the balance.
Actually, I believe gratitude is the most powerful tool in your repair kit. You can use gratitude to create more positive living in every area of your life. All you have to do is remember to keep your thoughts on the sunny side of the street. Staying in the state of continuous gratitude is a great way to live.
One of the simplest ways to express gratitude is to say thank you. Many people do a gratitude prayer of spiritual mind treatment before they pay their bills. Some even write little notes, such as “Thanks for the great service,” on their checks. This puts the writer in a prosperity mindset. Thanking people sets the law of attraction in motion and brings more money and better service to you.
It is especially important to acknowledge all gifts and accept all offers. Thanking people for their gifts ensures that the gifts keep coming. Thanking God for the financial abundance in your life every morning sets the tone for the whole day. Genuine gratitude greases the wheels of life!
Dare to dream of being solvent! Expand your thinking so that you can envision yourself as a wealthy person. Dare to imagine yourself as rich! Let your God- given intelligence work for you instead of against you. You can do it.
Here are some simple suggestions for greater financial expression that will work if you focus on them long enough to create habits.
- Keep a daily gratitude list and include financial items.
- Give an extra tithe to your church to express gratitude for what the church teaches you about prosperity.
- Send thank you notes for all gifts. Include lunch invitations and hand me down clothes.
- Take someone you love to lunch or give a gift.
- Share your wealth by giving away old clothes and other items.
I made two mistakes on my last blog about the Wise Woman Celebration on May 12 in Tustin, CA. Here are my corrections. The place to go to for more information is http://cwwevents.org/ . On March 15 the price goes up to $60. I hate it when I make mistakes but it happens. So all I can say is I’m sorry and move on.
Mistakes don’t just happen. Someone makes them. In this case, I failed to do the research and rushed to print. It was very apparent to anyone who cared and I got more than one comment. I am doing my best to make amends.
Making silly errors like that used to drive me nuts. I still hate sloppy mistakes but it takes more than that to upset me for long. Life is shorter than it used to be and I don’t sweat the small stuff. I learned long ago that I am human and I must learn to love me “as is”. While I know I’m perfect at the level of the Absolute (in God’s eyes) I see plenty of room to improve here on Planet Earth.
I’ve learned to handle the actual mistake as quickly as possible and move on. Step number 10 in the 12 Step Program says, “Continued to take a personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.” I have found great relief in that particular step because it freed me from having to always be right. It is literally exhausting to need to be perfect all the time.
We all learn to defend our egos and some of the ways we try to do that don’t work well. The best defense is to be careful about your work and I wasn’t. My ego took a hit and I could only make it worse by holding on to the mistake longer than I needed to. We can get in a lot of trouble defending our egos. I could try to find someone else to blame and make someone else unhappy. Or I could stop writing the blog and sink into depression, saying, “I made a mistake – I’ll never try again.” We are familiar with those techniques – we see them in our own behavior or others.
Defending the ego by refusing to admit you are wrong is common and doesn’t work well. We all know people who are difficult to live with, work with and have fun with because they couldn’t admit they were wrong about anything. I had a friend who insisted on picking all the restaurants and then defended his choice, even when the service was bad, the food was mediocre and the price was high. He was fun in a lot of ways but not when it came to dining out.
Never being able to admit you made a mistake is a dreadful burden. The worst of it is when you are stuck defending an indefensible position. When Nixon was forced to resign, one devout Republican I knew never talked about politics again. I have known more than one person who avoided marriage after one failed attempt.
Some people seem to think that they owe it to themselves to defend every action and they never admit making a mistakes. What they are really doing is defending their egos by insane or pathetic or belligerent behavior. Warmongers can’t back down. Bullies can’t say they are sorry. Experts can’t see the flaws in their own work. Beauties can’t adjust to the changes of time. Parents can’t correct their children. Teachers can’t see that they have failed when the student fails. And so it goes.
Right now, there is a lot of political jargon flooding the airwaves and one favorite expression the commentators are using the phrase, “double down”. It comes from playing blackjack and means splitting your cards and playing two hands. What that seems to mean in political language is making a preposterous statement more preposterous by defending it. Of course, politicians can never say they were wrong.
I think seeing my mistake, taking responsibility for it, and doing my level best to make amends is the sign of emotional maturity. That’s apparently not a goal of politicians but it is my goal. My guess that it is also your goal. You and I try to live our lives in integrity and harmony. If we double down, it is because we truly believe something. We may eventually change our minds but we don’t try to bluff the law of cause and effect. We know that spiritual laws are inexorable and the mistake will come back to haunt us if we don’t acknowledge it.
There is usually a real cost to a mistake. That cost can always be lessened if the mistake is acknowledged and corrected quickly. Doubling down almost always makes a mistake worse.
So I made the mistake, I’m sorry, and if you contact me quickly, I’ll try to help you not suffer from my error. That is the end of it for me. You can always make a comment on the blog if you have an opinion. But I’m letting it go. I will try to be a bit more careful but chances are good this isn’t the last time. I love you all.
How do I react when I make a mistake?
How quickly do I let go of the mistake?
A Facebook friend asked if I was also Jane Claypool Miner who wrote a teenage book called, The Boy For Me. When I acknowledged my past identity, she sent me a lovely thank you message. She told me how important the book had been in helping her learn to read books for pleasure and that she still had the book. Her thank you was the most pleasant gift I’ve received in a long time.
Nothing is a delightful as hearing a thank you from a surprising source. It has been at least 25 years since I wrote those 80 books for young adults and most are out of print but I do remember that period of writing success very fondly. It was a tremendous ego satisfaction after a long struggle.
After I got sober, my life appeared to be in failure mode. I’d sold one adult novel that was never published and nothing else. Ten years of studying the craft and making stupid mistakes made me feel as though I was a complete failure at life and at writing. At age 43, I left Mexico and went to NY to make my fortune.
I worked hard and it was important for me to build a successful writing career. I was, at one time, a very well known writer for teenagers. I was on the NY Times bestseller list for months and spoke at librarian and teacher conventions all over the nation. It was an ego-gratifying period but I don’t miss it.
When I moved from the East Coast to the West Coast I had a definite intention to do something that seemed more worthwhile. I studied for the New Thought ministry and wrote New Thought books and curriculum. I’ve never been sorry and I’ve never looked back.
What gave me pleasure yesterday was not memories of past glory but the idea that my book had been useful to someone. When I selected the New Thought ministry as my fourth career (I began as a classroom teacher and spent a few years in real estate) it was with the definite intention to help enlighten up the world. I thought I could use my skills to lighten and brighten people’s lives.
My Facebook friend’s compliment may not have impacted the whole world but it certainly lit me up. I love to be thanked – as do we all. I have heard much about my New Thought books but it is seldom I hear anything about those teenage romances. That thank you is embedded in my heart. And I thank the one who thanked me!
Thanking people is contagious and it is a very simple and effective way to light up the world, one person at a time. As a recovering alcoholic, I try to live my life in gratitude and express my thanks to people who have helped me over the years but I don’t think anyone can ever sincerely say thank you enough.
Thank you is the easiest expression in the world if you want to lift people’s spirits. Because of the way it works, saying those words to others will also make the speaker feel good. Gratitude really is catching because we all desire to experience love. If you want to attract more love into your life, you can begin by making it a point to say thank you to a few people every day.
Feeling cranky and need a lift? Send out some thank you cards. Feeling tired and need a pick-me-up? Call a friend and tell him or her how much you thank them for whatever. Need to feel better physically? Lie down and mentally thank your body parts for working well. Start with your toes and work up. Need more money? Write TYG for, “Thank you, God”, on every check you write.
Learn to live in gratitude by saying thank you. You can spread your thank you words around as though you were spreading jam on bread and butter. It may be a small thing but it will make all the difference.
Whom shall I surprise with a thank you today?
If I make saying thank you a game this week, how many ways can I find to express my gratitude?
Shall I keep a daily tally or record?