Prayer PartnersPosted: October 11, 2011
I hang up the telephone and I feel much better. In the last 30 minutes, all my vague worries about the outcome of my decision have evaporated. Talking it over with my prayer partner and allowing her to do a spiritual mind treatment for the highest and best outcome, worked like a miracle.
I started using a prayer partner several years ago when I was getting chemotherapy for a breast cancer diagnosis. I was also very worried about a young person in my life. To put it bluntly but honestly, I was scared for myself and even more scared for my young relative and I feared that my own spiritual mind treatments weren’t doing the job.
I had used practitioners many times, either paying a fee or sharing my skills. But at this time in my life, I felt as if I was in for some long-term work and several colleagues were talking enthusiastically about using the prayer partner program.
Up until then, I’d resisted because I had such a busy schedule and I didn’t particularly want to share my problems with anyone else. As a minister, I guess I felt as though I might be a target for gossip.
Things change fast when you are in difficulty and that is why every challenge brings an opportunity. My colleague, who had used prayer partners for some time, had a simple answer to the gossip issue, “Pick someone you trust,” she said, “And double up by picking someone from a different church.” As for the time crunch, my priorities changed fast when I got that cancer diagnosis and I suddenly had plenty of time to do whatever I needed to do for myself.
So I began doing the prayer partner thing when I was challenged and scared. I hope my readers will be smarter than I was and begin because it is a very good idea to have an outside person who can listen and pray for you on a regular basis.
Here’s how it works. You and your partner agree to a specific time (usually once a week) and you set up a definite commitment. Pencil it in your book just as though it were a lunch date or dentist appointment and make a real effort to keep your commitment. It will take anywhere from 20 to 45 minutes.
Generally, it is a good idea to share the responsibility of calling so no one is stuck with all of the phone expense. Begin the call with pleasantries of course, but then you get right down to business. First, one partner talks about what is going on this week and asks for specific prayer treatment. Then the other partner repeats the process. Then the one partner treats for the other. It is a turnabout process. The partners can decide who will treat first and it does not have to be the person same each week.
There are variations, of course. One of my prayer partners wanted each of us to talk about our own lives and then treat for ourselves. The other person then added anything he or she felt called to say to add to the treatment. The idea behind that system was that it was more powerful when you take responsibility for your own prayer work. I liked that process equally well.
Here are some tips….. I like to set the time for the next call before we begin our spiritual work so that we can hang up on a high note. I think you should choose a prayer partner who has more-or-less equal experience and level of success in the world. So many of us find it easer to be the helpers than to be the “helpees” that we have to watch that our prayer partnerships don’t become therapy for the other guy and then we end up with no time for ourselves.
I suggest strongly that you choose a partner who is not immediately in your life. Not in your church, family, or on your non-profit committee work. And if your partner cannot keep appointments and regularly stands you up, consider changing for a more reliable person.
During the past six years I have used prayer partnership weekly and I have had three different partners. In every case, I have been deeply grateful for their treatment work. Not only am I now officially a breast cancer “survivor” but my young relative is doing very well. I’ve dealt with many other issues – large and small. I’ve also seen every one of my partners prosper.
Am I drawn to the idea of having a prayer partner?
Do I know anyone who might be a good partner for me?