I had plenty of excuses for feeling sorry for myself, but I didn’t want excuses or sympathy. I wanted to feel better. I knew that required a lift off the self-pity pot.
When I began my ministry, Dr. Tom Costa of Palm Desert, CA was a giant in Religious Science ministry, partly because he so clearly believed in our divine right to happiness. I loved his talks; he used humor to move people along their path to freedom. He also had a gift for keeping it simple.
Dr. Tom used to say, “If you are going through Hell, don’t pitch a tent, keep on moving!”
I certainly didn’t want to pitch my tent on Depression Ave that morning so I kept doing my spiritual work and turning it over to God, When that didn’t work, I prayed and turned it over again. And again.
Nothing worked. Then, Divine Inspiration kicked in and reminded me that I had been planning to look at talks on UTube. Here was something new to try.
Only the week before, I’d listened to a talk by Rev. Chris Michaels of Kansas City. Besides the great talk, I felt as if I were visiting an old friend. That talk was so marvelous I’d decided to add internet talks to the Spiritual Practice book I’m writing.
Even though I wanted nothing more than to give up and watch old movies or go back to bed and pull the covers over my head, I opened up this computer and began to browse on the UTube.
Eureka! One of the best things about organizational conferences was hearing a variety of speakers. Now I had a wide variety of speakers at my fingertips. It was like having instant Asilomar Conferences packed into my apple box. It was like striking oil in my front yard!
Although it’s a bit difficult to navigate, it seems there are many, many well-known and wonderful Science of Mind speakers available on the internet. The quality of production is good and the talks are generally excellent.
My mind and heart were renewed after I watched four talks in a little over an hour. Suddenly, it was simple to set aside the morning’s gloom. All I needed was someone else to remind me of what I already knew. That’s the way it works sometimes.
I listened as my colleagues told stories and jokes to make their spiritual points. I desperately needed to hear everything they said because I felt stuck. Or alone.
There is something cozy about hanging out with people who share your opinions and beliefs. I loved hearing Rev. Gayle Dillon and Rev. Dr. Kathy Hearn speak on ideas that are dear to my heart. Rev. Gayle was brand new to me and Dr. Kathy seemed like an old friend. They were both delightful.
It was a wonderful treat to find my dear friend, Dr. David Walker’s talk online. There he was, telling me once again, You Are Enough. Even more amazing was seeing and hearing Dr. Ernest Holmes, founder of Religious Science, speak on the power of belief. Dr. David has only been gone a few years but Dr. Holmes made his transition in 1960 so the talk must have been transferred from an old film.
I’d be the first to admit I’m behind the times when it comes to researching the internet and I’m never going to be a “techie” but I discovered an amazing world of wisdom out there over the rainbow.
Maybe some of you readers already know what a wealth of material is available on U Tube and on individual church websites. If so, please write comments and share your tips. For instance, how do you search? I found searching by speaker’s names to be better than looking under more general topics such as Religious Science. However, that precludes contacting new speakers.
I hope every reader will check out minister’s talks on the computer but that’s not the only reason for this blog. What I hope you will take away from my experience isn’t just about the internet. The real lesson is that perseverance pays off.
I observe that many people let their emotions rule them, even after they hear about taking charge of their lives by changing their thinking, they struggle when events disrupt their plans. Many of us try to control our emotional reactions but we give up too soon.
If one spiritual practice method doesn’t work, we can try another. There are many ways to help ourselves when a bad mood strikes. We can take control of moods if we hang in there. One should never give up.
I used to have depressions that seemed to drop in to visit for no reason. In those early days emotions seemed to be something that happened to me. Science of Mind taught me I can choose my reactions to events . It may take extra effort but it works. Now listening to talks on the internet gives me another tool.
Here’s something else the experience taught me. I thought I was missing church – the people I love and talks by my own brilliant ministers, Rev. Mattie Dobbs and Rev. Debby ODonnell. It’s true I missed my church but the deepest thing I was missing was the message of Religious Science itself.
I know I can change my thinking and that will change my life. Church always helps me do that because the teaching is so clear on Sundays in a roomful of believers. On yesterday morning I needed a sharp reminder – the kind I get in church.
I go to church consistently because my life goes better. I also use reminders during the week. Recently, I’ve depended mostly on books, tapes and CD’s to supplement and replace church when I can’t get there. Now I’ve added a powerful new tool that offers a more immediate experience
I have always wished we could find a way to package the feeling of love and joy we find on Sundays. Church offers music, fellowship, committees, cookies and that’s all great but the real reason we attend church is to acquire the key for taking charge of our lives. We change our thinking and develop a new consciousness of successful living.
We can do it because God created us to express the qualities of God. We are intended to be happy, healthy, loving, and wealthy. Clearing out old ideas and accepting positive beliefs is a lifelong endeavor. It takes support and perseverance.
Every mindful thing we do moves us along in the direction of our dreams. We must take what we learn on Sunday and use it 24/7. We must internalize the message.
I’m excited about the discovery of internet talks because it creates an immediate experience. Of course, I will, continue with my other powerful tools. I will attend church, do my prayers, meditation, reading, art work and other familiar tools.
Now I have added another techie tool to my journey down the yellow brick road toward enlightenment. I’m going to listen to a few talks every week. How about you?
Is there anyone I’d like to check out?
How do I begin?
We celebrate a prosperity program in my church at this time of year. The results are always fun and often amazing. This year the signup box is decorated with my artwork so I am especially happy about it.
The program works simply. People sign up and promise to donate ten percent of any unscheduled income they receive during the time of the program. Our ministers and practitioners pray daily for “extra” or unscheduled money to come to those who have signed up.We’ve done it for years and it is always a success.
It’s a nice fundraiser for the Center and it also teaches a great lesson on how prayer treatment works. The prosperity program demonstrates that money can come in many ways because God is really the only source of our supply. God is our Source and God is all around us.
There is no charge for the program except the tithe you promise to pay when you benefit. No risk and no charge makes it easy for people to sign up. It’s also easy to promise to donate part of the unexpected money before you see it.
I love the program because it is so much fun. Mostly I love to hear the “God works in mysterious ways” stories. Over 25 years, I have heard some wonderful ones – big and small. Here are a few I remember…
One woman inherited $5000 because her sibling found some fifty-year-old war bonds in their parents’ attic. Someone else was repaid a real estate debt of over $120,000. They decided it was unscheduled because they’d written the debt off 20 years earlier. They said they had almost forgotten about it.
One year, I received a gift of several thousand dollars from a long-term member of the Center. She sent the check and thank you note saying it was for services I rendered during the past years.
Not all the best stories are about large amounts of money. Someone found an old embroidery sampler in the garage and sold it. She sent the church $50 and showed us photos of the pioneer sampler.
Small amounts make delightful surprises even though they are not dramatic. For example, I was cleaning out my closet and found $100 in a jacket I hadn’t worn for at least five years. That was found prosperity and I was delighted.
Most amounts are relatively small but that doesn’t matter since the point is to open up our minds to accept the truth that all money comes from God. Whether large or small, the stories about the surprises help prove that Creative Mind is a great river with many tributaries.
Our Center teaches that God is always the Source of our supply. We are well funded and, while the prosperity program tithes are welcome, our goal is primarily educational.
The “pay off” for participants is lifelong. Once we really get it that God is the source of our supply, we can transfer our reliance from a nutty boss to God working through predictable spiritual laws. We can also release any belief in being stuck or locked into bad situations. We can have peace of mind and faith in solutions to life’s little puzzles.
If you trust the news, economic terror is widespread but it need not be contagious. We can train our minds to be immune. We simply have to change our thinking to change our economic life. Usually that means letting go of old ideas and accepting new ones.
Let’s not hang onto old ideas around money. “Not enough” thinking needs to be discarded. Once we get it that all money comes from God and God is unlimited supply, our minds open up and greater prosperity arrives. Prayer works. The Unscheduled Income program can help people accept more and more financial Good.
Another aim of the program is helping people understand they don’t need to limit their avenues of prosperity to a job, or one person’s kindness. We don’t need to build such narrow fences around the ways we accept money.
A favorite story is about the woman who asked her minister to pray for her prosperity. Next Sunday, when the minister asked her how well the program worked, she said, “Not good at all.” Then she added, “My son wanted to give me a money gift but, of course, I couldn’t take it from him.”
If she had understand that all money comes from God, she wouldn’t turn her son down so quickly. She would allow her son to experience the joy of giving and know that the Universe would find a way to pay him back.
As a part of my personal spiritual program, I have learned to accept as well as to give. Whenever someone offers me a gift, I take it. It is good for the person offering to give and my acceptance completes the circle. If I don’t need it, I give it away.Whether it is theater tickets, lunch or cash, I say yes. If we are to be more prosperous, we must learn to say yes and we must also learn to be generous.
New Thought churches and centers teach that money is good to have and to circulate. We help people learn to attract more Good. Many centers have prosperity programs. You can find many excellent tools to increase your prosperity in New Thought churches. There are programs like the unscheduled income, classes, and wonderful books, such as Spiritual Economics by Dr. Eric Butterworth.
Basically, raising your prosperity level depends on the idea that your individual mind is always sending messages to Creative Mind about finances. You must change your thinking so your life will change. Prayer changes your thinking and so do other activities. You can learn to live with an attitude of expectancy rather than “not enough.”
Signing up for the prosperity program is a statement that you are open to accept more.Go to the center for Spiritual Living Carlsbad for more about this 10 week program if you are interested.
I like to think of money as fluid. Sometimes I imagine a financial waterfall. This trains my mind to stop believing the only way we can get more money is to get a raise. The best news is that God can easily find myriad ways when you are open to recieve. Unfreezing your waterfall is the tip of the iceberg but it is a good way to begin.
Raises are only one way to increase the cash flow. There are great fortunes built on good ideas. And then there are gifts, found objects, found money, your talents, inheritances, investments and inventions.
You don’t have to sign up for our program but I hope you will make an attempt to open up your thinking during these next few weeks. Begin to change your beliefs by using affirmations such as, Money flows to me from many places. or. I am a money magnet.
As you change your thinking, your life will change.
What ideas about money would I like to have?
How might I attempt to change my thinking?
What steps might I take?
When things looked really scary, Columbus wrote, “Yesterday we sailed west because it was our course.”
In 1492, Columbus faced danger, disease and starvation on the voyage to the New World. His crew was terrified and maybe he was also frightened. Yet, he never tried to change course or turn back, He had a plan and he followed it despite the obstacles,
There are times when the very best thing you can do is to keep on course, as best you can, despite any apparent difficulty. I’m living that scenario right now as I travel my personal yellow brick road to recovery.
On Thurs, Feb 6, I fell flat onto my tile floor during my walking exercise. I hit my head and broke my wrist in two places. I’m in extra pain and I’m going to be slowed down on exercise. It’s distressing.
Nevermind. I’m doing my best to keep up with my spiritual and physical recovery plan. I can’t do any walking exercise because I need two hands for the walker and my left is in a splint. I’ve substituted some chair walking and marching and more exercises. I’m also looking into a special walker for one-armed people.
I’ve added extra prayer, chair yoga and a visualization meditation since the accident. Rev. Matti’s treatments have provided some delicious pain free hours and I thank God for that.
It’s hard not to be discouraged when you tumble into an obvious setback like my fall, especially if it brings more pain. There have been times when I felt more like my name was Job than Jane.
We always have choices about how to react. At first, I was in pain and unhappy because it hurt a lot and my healing schedule was probably disrupted.
I didn’t feel like being brave or cheerful when it happened so I laid low the first few days.
Discouragement is depressing and depression tempts us to give up. I didn’t really think about giving up but I certainly abandoned positive living for a few days. So – That’s my news from Lake Wobegone.
Then my teaching kicked in and I decided to make a new choice. I would use my fall as an opportunity to teach and I would write about it. I would tell the truth.
What was the truth? What should I say? What were my choices?
Now, the conversational custom is to tell you how difficult and/or scary it was. I could also try to blame slippery floors or others. I could manipulate you and get some, “Oh, you poor dear” sympathy cards out of the event,
I could also shed some inky tears and tell you that God should never have sent this trouble to a good girl like me. Or I could give you a step by step account about exactly how it happened.
I knew that there are always opportunities and options and I knew I had many choices. After some thought, I have decided (one week later) to practice what I teach. And what I teach is using positive thinking to modify personal reality.
So, let’s begin. Let me tell you some of the good news. It was my left wrist and I am right handed. It was a clean fracture and I will not need an operation. The pain is definitely getting better.
I am pleased that I didn’t lose consciousness and, despite the blood, that I wasn’t scared. The cut over my eye made me look like Rocky but I didn’t need stitches. My black eye isn’t black, but a gorgeous purple – just the color of a California sunset.
Best news of all – I started to pray right after I told my helper to call the paramedics. I spoke my truth out loud as the blood spurted onto the floor! While my eye didn’t heal immediately, I was pleased to have evidence of how deeply I have internalized the teaching,
I hope the readers of this blog will benefit from my health-challenged experiences by learning about how to continue to seek a quick recovery. Perhaps they can also learn how to proceed when faced with apparent difficulties, My life project is to teach Science of Mind and I trust this bleep on the road to full recovery will help me do that. I wouldn’t volunteer for the experience but now that it is here, I can use it.
My conviction of the usefulness of this teaching in every aspect of our lives deepens every day. We can use positive thinking and affirmative prayer in all sorts of situations.
Most of us go to Centers for Spiritual Living to learn how to attract the things we desire and we are always hearing stories about successes. The success stories include sticking to your prayers long enough to achieve your goals.
Yes, there are instant healings and ,in theory, they are always instantly possible. But it often takes longer than we wish to attain our dream. Slowness is a common experience although not universal.
When it takes longer than we want to see results, many people give and accept disappointment. Dr. Ernest Holmes tells us we should continue to pray daily until we see what we want appear. Too many people give up too soon.
If you follow your plan, you will eventually achieve your dream and see results. Having to stay the course may not seem desirable in the moment but if you do, it’s worth it.
What’s tragic is giving up too soon. Never give up on your dreams! When you experience a setback or difficulty, do the best you can and keep on keeping on. You deserve the best and your dreams can come true.
Positive thinking and affirmative prayers work. Never doubt it. Of course, from time to time you may have to adjust your plan a bit. This blog is shorter than usual because I’m typing with one hand,
Love and kisses,
Am I thinking of giving up on anything?
What would happen if I doubled down instead?
They are each my long-term friends and although they don’t know each other, the three of us have much in common, including optimistic attitudes and impressive resumes. It’s true that birds of a feather flock together and I’ve noticed that my highflying friends tend to resemble eagles. Nearly all of them are independent women of a “certain age”.
When I met Gina in Massachusetts, 35 years ago, we both lived in the Berkshires. She now lives in Cambridge, MA and travels all over the world giving speeches and workshops. She’s become a leader in her field of sex therapy and has written many books including her first, the classic, Women Who Love Sex.
Gina is a therapist who helps people change and, unlike most experts, she’s not afraid to change herself. She walks her talk.When I met her she had a modest practice and she published a Women’s Newspaper. Her outlook mostly political and she promoted the women’s movement. She was the perfect therapist for me.
Next, she stepped into the role of self-help/psychology writer with amazing speed. Our friendship deepened because of our mutual writing interests. The next years brought her much success, including appearances on Oprah and awards in her field.
During the last decade or so, she’s opened up to a more spiritual side of life. She studied with a South American shaman for a while. Now she’s developed a wonderful new approach to therapy that considers the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of life. She has a large following in her Isis Network. For more check out www.GinaOgden.com
I’ve known my friend Maxine Kaye for about twenty-five years and I admired her from the day I met her. It is a pleasure to be in Maxine’s company because she consistently sees the bright side of life.
She grew up in the Science of Mind teaching and became a minister at a very early age. Everything about Maxine speaks to the power of a strong spiritual teaching. She is intelligent, beautiful and one of the most loving people I’ve ever met.
Maxine has been my unwitting mentor for many years. As a late-comer to a spiritual approach to living, I had a lot of work to do and I was quite critical but even before I met her personally, I could see her integrity. Maxine’s example was inspirational. She showed me it was possible to truly internalize spiritual living principles.
Over the years we served on many, many Religious Science International committees together, including the Board of Education and Board of Directors. She always saw situations from the best possible viewpoint. She never condemned, gossiped or criticized. I admire her because she also walks her talk.
Maxine and I have travelled our unique ministerial paths as friends. I stayed in the center I founded in Carlsbad and she moved around a bit, but she was always in California. Now she is moving to Boca Raton, FL where she will write her daily inspirations and be a guest speaker and workshop presenter. One Sunshine state loses what another one gains. Whenever Maxine’s in the room, it is lighter and brighter.
She not old enough to retire, of course, so she’s just changing her methods of working. If you want to know how old she is, you’ll have to buy her book because I think of her as a teenager. I will tell you this though – her chronological age is simply numbers. Maxine looks and acts amazingly young. She is living proof that positive spiritual living is truly good for you and for every aspect of your life.
Maxine has written an excellent book, Alive and Ageless and she shares many of her ideas how to stay young. These ideas include diet and exercise tips but everything is truly based on building a youthful, healthy consciousness. You can buy the book from Maxine’s website www.TheConsciousConnections.com, or from http://www.LULU.com or from most Center For Spiritual Living bookstores. Follow her wisdom and I think you will be very happy with the results. You can also subscribe to her daily inspirations, ConsciousConnections.
If you met my friends, Gina and Maxine, you would see they are not much alike. There are many differences but it is the similarities that are important to our new world. They are marvelous examples of an emerging pattern for wise women.
I call Gina, Maxine and most of my other friends the Breakthrough generation. We were born into a world where girls were supposed to be “sugar and spice and everything nice”. Our goals were to marry young, have nice babies and support our husbands as they built their careers.
Breakthrough Wise Women began as good girls who “behaved ourselves”, but times change and our worlds flowered as we began to claim more of the action for ourselves.We were women who moved ahead of the times.
The women’s movement is taught as ho-hum history these days. “There was the birth control pill, Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinham, The Sixties explosion and the rest is history”. When we were in those moments, it was terribly personal.
Our journey is quite a story. It took a lot of courage to get from there to where we are now. If you don’t believe me, watch Mad Men.
We lived that history. Whether we were political or not, whether we knew it or not, we were deeply impacted by the women’s movement. For Jane, Maxine and Gina, and most of my other friends, it is very, very personal history.
Although they are several years younger and we are very different people, we share a common experience because we didn’t stick to the expected script. We made choices and we designed lives that were inconceivable when we started out. Think about it. No women ministers. No sexual revolution. No Oprah. No world travel.
Things turned out a lot bigger and better than we expected because we stepped out on faith. I love both my friends for many reasons but that shared history is a big part of it. I love it that we designed interesting and successful lives by making brave choices.
Even though I was sad when Gina and Maxine left town, I didn’t want to hold them back. It’s OK to wish people lived closer but it is not OK to try and cage them or to hold back their changes.
These two great ladies have been my friends since cigarettes were sexy and Coca-Cola was a nickel. We have always kept in touch before and we will continue to do so. They will always be in my life even if not in the next room.
I will miss them, of course but I’m glad they are doing what they want to do. I am glad they are living the lives they want to live. I am glad to be a part of the Breakthrough generation.
List three major ideas that have changed in your lifetime.
Do you have friends you miss?
Do you have a friend you want to tell you are proud of?
Do you want to contact a distant friend today?
Stuff happens. When it happens, you deal with it as as best you can. I still don’t know what caused my current physical challenge except there was nerve damage that paralyzed my back from the waist down. The good news is that I am getting better and better.
After two months in Rehab, I’ve gone from being bed-bound to walking 400 feet with a walker. I am grateful for the progress and I know it is only the beginning.
Physical rehab exercises are the most important part of my day. My attention is on doing my exercises and focusing on the healing. I have every confidence I will recover completely and walk independently.
I’m impatient but I’m grateful. Since no one knew how long it would take or how successful the treatment would be, the first weeks were all about faith. I depended greatly on spiritual mind treatments from my supporters because when you are in the middle of an experience it is a good idea to get help from a practitioner. I got lots of help. Many of my friends are practitioners or practitioners in training and I depended on them, as well as others..
Now and then, I hear a medical staff person say he or she thought I might never walk again. I’m glad I didn’t hear those predictions earlier. I never doubted I’d heal and I didn’t waste my time worrying about why it happened. I just keep on keeping on and expecting the best. I’m working as hard as I can on the physical exercises. I also keep as positive an attitude as I can.
I’m still surprised the healing is taking this long but I can see daily progress. Thanks for your prayers; I know many people are praying consistently for me. Your continued prayers are requested and welcomed.
I thank God for Science of Mind and the Center for Spiritual Living in Carlsbad. My support system helped. All those classes I’ve taken or taught in the past 35 years have helped. Although I’m sometimes restless, I’ve been pretty good about sticking to the sunny side of the street.
Gratitude really is the most powerful tool I have, especially when I get down, I use the Serenity Prayer (12 Step helped me there) and then I count my blessings. This rehab experience has given me the opportunity to practice what I preach and I glad I can do it.
There are many, many reasons to be grateful every day. The facility and the staff are marvelous. They are all very kind and competent and some nurses are amazing. Some bring sunshine into the room even at midnight. Consciousness is everything in nursing as well as other helping professions.
As I would have expected, my family has been a major blessing. The generous support of my daughter and son-in-law, sister, brothers, grandsons, and nieces and nephews is phenomenal. I am blessed with a loyal and loving family.
I also have a loving church group to support me. I was genuinely surprised by the number of church friends who visited, called or wrote. So many rallied round to love and help me that on some days I had to make appointments and schedule time to see everyone.
Several people in the rehab center have commented on how many fascinating and lovely people I know. One Activities Director teases me about being the celebrity guest or star. He is impressed and so am I.
I’ve seen that my ministry is worthwhile to others as well as to myself. Many of my former ministerial students have called and offered help. Founding the church 25 years ago was a great thing to do. It not only survives, it thrives. I’ve been more or less retired for several years and some of the people who came by have never heard me speak from the pulpit. They visit and offer well wishes and prayers because they love the church.
From the beginning, the Carlsbad Center was found to teach Science of Mind and was grounded in Love. Newcomers enjoy the welcome they found here. The current newcomers probably think that, as founder, I deserve some credit for the atmosphere. The credit really goes to Rev. Debby and Rev. Mattie for expanding and supporting that original vision.
Love is a great healing influence.I believe the love you have showered on me during this rehab period is powerfully healing. Thank you all, whether you prayed for me, visited, called or wrote. Your love means a great deal.
My holidays plans are full of love. I am planning to enjoy the Holiday Season here at the Rehab Center with many of my family members. They are making a two-plus hour drive just to be with me and I truly appreciate it.
My New Year’s plans are also full of love. Around the first of January. I plan to return to my home although I will still be needing some help and physical therapy. I am feeling so much better that it time to resume my normal life. I also plan to resume blogging on a regular basis. I look forward to your comments and I thank you for reading the future blogs as well as this one.
Let me close with a message of love to each and every one of you. Have a wonderful Holiday Season! May you keep Love and Gratitude in your heart, mind and deeds as you move through your holidays and remember to reach out in love to others. We are here to love life and to share our love, joy, and gratitude with each other.
Happy New Year is on its way!